I Can’t Mask My Need for Support Anymore
As someone who was only diagnosed with autism and ADHD in her 30s, I’ve always masked my need for support but never realised it. Until I burned out. Even since…
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When the Baby Changes the Routine
My son has never been one to be able to fall asleep in his crib/cot. We’ve either had to walk around with him in his buggy or he contact naps.…
There Are No Medals for Suffering: Why We Need to Stop Ranking Women’s Births
I recently wrote about the way births without pain relief or medical intervention are sometimes celebrated as though they are somehow a greater achievement. The conversations afterwards made me realise…
Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
I watched a reel a few weeks back of Jamie Laing and Sophie Habboo talking about how much Sophie loves this stage with their baby, who is a similar age…
World Breastfeeding Week: Nobody Told Me It Would Be This Hard
Last week was World Breastfeeding Week. It’s been important to me to share my experience because it’s been completely different to what I expected. Before my son was born, antenatal…
What If Motherhood Is the Only Thing That Feels Motivating Right Now?
Since becoming a mum, I’ve found something I did not quite expect. It is not motherhood that feels boring or under-stimulating to my ADHD brain. It is almost everything else. This post is about what happens when your priorities shift, your motivation changes shape, and being a mum becomes the thing that feels most meaningful right now.
When Your Baby Cries in Public: Autistic Parenting, Noise and Overwhelm
A baby crying in public can feel huge when you are the parent. Add in bus noise, loud phone calls and sensory overload, and something ordinary can suddenly feel impossible.
There Is No Baby Group Deadline
I started to feel behind in motherhood because I hadn’t done “proper” baby groups early on. This post explores AuDHD parenting, comparison, and how easily invisible expectations turn into guilt that doesn’t match reality.
I Wasn’t Late. I Wasn’t Supported.
I thought I was late to get feeding support when my baby was a few months old, and that quickly turned into self-blame. This post explores traumatic birth recovery, mixed messages around infant feeding support, and what happens when lack of access gets mistaken for personal failure.
I Thought I Was Having Contractions. It Was Trapped Wind.
Pregnancy has a way of convincing you that every unfamiliar feeling is something serious. In my last post, I wrote about the time I thought I was having a miscarriage when it was actually anxiety and a stomach ache. This time, I was convinced I was having contractions. I wasn’t. It was trapped wind.