I offer neuroaffirming coaching for ADHD and AuDHD mums who want support through pregnancy, early motherhood and returning to work. Becoming a mum changed almost every part of my life, from how my brain and body felt to my identity, relationships and capacity. It also showed me how little support is designed around the realities of neurodivergent motherhood. My coaching gives you space to make sense of what you are experiencing and find practical ways forward that work for your actual life.
We might explore sensory overload, executive dysfunction, mum guilt, burnout or the loss of routines that once helped you cope. We can also work through changes to your identity and relationships, the impact of a difficult or traumatic birth, or the pressure of balancing motherhood with work. I am not here to tell you how to become a perfect parent. I am here to help you understand your needs, trust yourself and build a version of motherhood that feels more manageable and more like your own.
Sonay offers coaching around the emotional, practical and sensory load of ADHD motherhood.
This can include overwhelm, executive function, identity, confidence, burnout, mum guilt, relationships, returning to work and trying to build a life that fits your actual capacity.
The coaching is not about becoming a perfect mum. It is about understanding your brain, your needs and what support could actually look like in real life.
Pregnancy and birth can be especially intense when you are ADHD, AuDHD, autistic or otherwise neurodivergent.
This work can include sensory needs, communication with professionals, feeling dismissed, birth trauma, emergency C-section recovery and processing what happened afterwards.
This is not medical advice. It is neuroaffirming coaching, writing and speaking from lived experience.
Sonay writes honestly about ADHD motherhood, pregnancy, birth, parenting, mum guilt, identity, feeding, sensory overload and the reality of becoming a parent while neurodivergent.
The aim is to say the things many mums are thinking but feel unable to say out loud.
You can read more on the Divergently Parenting blog.
Sonay speaks about ADHD mums, neurodivergent pregnancy, birth, parenting, work, maternity experiences, returning to work and the gaps in support for neurodivergent mothers.
This may be relevant for organisations, events, panels, podcasts, parent communities, workplaces, maternity projects and neurodiversity conversations.
If you would like to discuss speaking, writing or collaboration, please get in touch.
This is not medical advice, midwifery advice, therapy, crisis support or perfect parenting advice.
Sonay is not a midwife, health visitor, lactation consultant, therapist or medical professional. If you need medical, mental health, feeding, safeguarding or urgent support, you should contact an appropriately qualified professional or service.
This work sits in the space of coaching, writing, advocacy, speaking and lived experience. It is about making sense of the emotional, practical and sensory realities of ADHD motherhood.
ADHD mums are often expected to parent, recover, feed, organise, remember, regulate, advocate, work, manage appointments, manage relationships and hold everything together with very little support that actually accounts for how their brains work.
Many mothers only realise how unsupported they are once everything has already become too much.
Support for ADHD mums needs to be honest about capacity, sensory overload, executive function, birth trauma, hormones, identity, relationships, work and the systems that often fail to understand neurodivergent people.
Need support around ADHD motherhood, pregnancy, birth or returning to work?
Get in touch to talk about coaching, speaking, writing or collaboration.
Contact usThe page is called Support for ADHD Mums because that is the clearest focus, but Sonay’s work also speaks to many AuDHD, autistic and otherwise neurodivergent mothers.
If you relate to the themes of sensory overload, executive dysfunction, masking, burnout, emotional intensity, identity shift or feeling misunderstood in motherhood, this work may still be relevant to you.
No. This is not medical advice, midwifery advice, health visiting advice, lactation advice or therapy.
Sonay offers coaching, writing, speaking and advocacy from a neuroaffirming and lived-experience perspective. You should always seek appropriate professional support for medical, mental health, feeding, safeguarding or urgent concerns.
Coaching can create space to talk about what happened, how it has affected your confidence, identity, work, relationships and day-to-day life, and what support or advocacy might help you move forward.
However, coaching is not therapy or trauma treatment. If you need trauma therapy or specialist mental health support, Sonay would encourage you to seek help from an appropriately qualified professional.
Yes. Returning to work after having a baby can be a huge transition, especially for ADHD and neurodivergent mums.
Coaching can support you to think through capacity, confidence, boundaries, reasonable adjustments, communication, identity, childcare, overwhelm and what a more sustainable return to work could look like.
No. You do not need a formal diagnosis to get in touch.
Many people are diagnosed late, waiting for assessment, self-identified or only beginning to wonder whether ADHD, autism or AuDHD might explain parts of their experience.
This page focuses on ADHD mums because Sonay’s current writing and lived experience sits there most strongly.
However, Divergently Being also works more broadly with neurodivergent adults, relationships, work, identity and parenting. If you are unsure whether the support is right for you, please get in touch and ask.
Yes. Sonay speaks and writes about ADHD motherhood, neurodivergent pregnancy, birth, parenting, maternity experiences, birth trauma, sensory overload, returning to work and the lack of support for neurodivergent mothers.
Please contact us to discuss speaking, writing, podcast, panel or collaboration opportunities.
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