If you are looking for an ADHD mum coach because motherhood has made existing ADHD challenges feel louder, or you are only beginning to understand how ADHD is showing up in your life as a mum, you are in the right place.
Pregnancy, early motherhood, returning to work and everything that comes afterwards can affect almost every part of your life when you have ADHD.
You might be dealing with:
You might also feel as though the support around you does not understand what it is really like to be an ADHD mum.
I’m Sonay, an ADHD mum coach, neurodivergent speaker and Solicitor Advocate. I have more than 500 hours of coaching experience and almost 15 years’ experience across corporate and legal environments.
I’m ADHD and autistic myself, and I became a mum after being diagnosed in adulthood. That lived experience sits alongside professional coach training and substantial coaching practice; it does not mean I assume your experience will look like mine.
I work more broadly with adults with ADHD too, but this part of Divergently Being is specifically for mums navigating the particular mix of identity, sensory load, executive function, relationships, work and change that motherhood can bring.
I offer neuroaffirming coaching for ADHD mums who want support through pregnancy, early motherhood, returning to work and beyond.
Becoming a mum changed almost every part of my own life, from how my brain and body felt to my identity, relationships and capacity. It also showed me how little support is designed around the realities of ADHD motherhood.
My coaching gives you space to make sense of what you are experiencing and find practical ways forward that work for your actual life.
There is no such thing as the perfect mother, and motherhood will look different for everyone. I am not here to tell you how you should parent or force you into someone else’s idea of what a good mum looks like. I am here to help you understand your needs, trust yourself and build a version of motherhood that feels more manageable and more like your own.
When I became pregnant, I was finishing my professional coach training and already building my coaching practice.
I had a clear idea of what came next: finish my training, continue building my coaching hours and move towards ICF accreditation.
Then pregnancy changed the pace of everything.
Pregnancy became complicated. Motherhood arrived. My priorities, capacity and understanding of myself changed with it.
For someone who had spent years being capable, professional and used to pushing through, that has been an education in itself.
Support is not something you earn by struggling enough.
The systems that worked before a baby may simply stop working.
A disrupted routine can affect an ADHD brain far more than other people realise.
Motherhood does not somehow make your own needs disappear.
Since then, I have built more than 500 hours of coaching experience alongside almost 15 years of experience across corporate and legal environments as a Solicitor Advocate.
But when I coach ADHD mums, I also bring something I could not have learned through professional training alone: an understanding of what it is like when ADHD meets pregnancy, birth, sleep deprivation, changing routines, sensory overload, identity and the enormous mental load of looking after another human being.
You do not need to become better at coping with an impossible version of motherhood.
We can work out what actually works for you.
If you are looking for direct support, these are the two main ways to work with me.
I offer one-to-one coaching around the emotional, practical and sensory load of ADHD motherhood.
We can explore overwhelm, executive function, identity, confidence, burnout, mum guilt, relationships, returning to work and trying to build a life that fits your actual capacity.
My coaching is not about helping you become a perfect mum. It is about helping you understand your brain, recognise your needs and work out what support could actually look like in real life.
Launching in November 2026, The ADHD Mum Reset is a five-week group coaching programme for ADHD mums who are tired of feeling like they should be able to hold everything together.
Across five weeks, we will explore shame, identity, executive function, the mental load, sensory overload, emotional regulation, boundaries, support and creating your own ADHD mum reset plan.
These are the first ADHD Mum Reset groups, with two cohort options: Mondays 10:30–12:00 UK time from 9 November to 7 December 2026, or Thursdays 18:00–19:30 UK time from 12 November to 10 December 2026. Each cohort runs for five weeks, with a maximum of eight participants. Places are £399 at the founding-cohort price, and I will ask participants for feedback to help refine future groups.
Coaching is only one part of this work. I also write, advocate and speak about the wider systems and experiences that shape ADHD motherhood.
I write honestly about ADHD motherhood, pregnancy, birth, parenting, mum guilt, identity, feeding, sensory overload and the reality of becoming a parent while neurodivergent.
I want to say the things many mums are thinking but feel unable to say out loud, including loving your child deeply while also feeling overwhelmed, struggling with the mental load or wondering why motherhood seems harder for you than it does for everyone else.
I also write about the gaps in maternity care, parenting advice and workplace support, with the aim of helping ADHD mums feel seen and encouraging more honest conversations about the support we actually need.
I speak about ADHD mums, neurodivergent pregnancy, birth, parenting, work, maternity experiences, returning to work and the gaps in support for neurodivergent mothers.
My speaking may be relevant for organisations, events, panels, podcasts, parent communities, workplaces, maternity projects and wider conversations about neurodiversity.
You can find out more about the talks and training we offer on the speaking page.
I do not provide medical advice, midwifery advice, therapy, crisis support or perfect parenting advice.
I am not a midwife, health visitor, lactation consultant, therapist or medical professional. If you need medical, mental health, feeding, safeguarding or urgent support, you should contact an appropriately qualified professional or service.
My work sits in the space of coaching, writing, advocacy, speaking and lived experience. It is about helping people make sense of the emotional, practical and sensory realities of ADHD motherhood.
I believe this work matters because ADHD mums are often expected to parent, recover, feed, organise, remember, regulate, advocate, work, manage appointments, manage relationships and hold everything together with very little support that accounts for how their brains work.
I know that many mothers only realise how unsupported they are once everything has already become too much.
I want support for ADHD mums to be honest about capacity, sensory overload, executive function, birth trauma, hormones, identity, relationships, work and the systems that often fail to understand neurodivergent people.
Need support around ADHD motherhood, pregnancy, birth or returning to work?
Get in touch to talk about coaching, speaking, writing or collaboration.
Contact usThis page focuses on ADHD mums because that is where my specialist motherhood work sits most strongly, but much of it may also resonate with AuDHD, autistic and otherwise neurodivergent mothers.
If you relate to the themes of sensory overload, executive dysfunction, masking, burnout, emotional intensity, identity shift or feeling misunderstood in motherhood, this work may still be relevant to you.
Coaching can create space to talk about what happened, how it has affected your confidence, identity, work, relationships and day-to-day life, and what support or advocacy might help you move forward.
However, coaching is not therapy or trauma treatment. If you need trauma therapy or specialist mental health support, I would encourage you to seek help from an appropriately qualified professional.
Yes. Returning to work after having a baby can be a huge transition, especially for ADHD and neurodivergent mums.
Coaching can support you to think through capacity, confidence, boundaries, reasonable adjustments, communication, identity, childcare, overwhelm and what a more sustainable return to work could look like.
No. You do not need a formal diagnosis to get in touch.
Many people are diagnosed late, waiting for assessment, self-identified or only beginning to wonder whether ADHD, autism or AuDHD might explain parts of their experience.
This page focuses on ADHD mums because my current specialist writing and lived experience sits there most strongly.
However, Divergently Being also works more broadly with neurodivergent adults, relationships, work, identity and parenting. If you are unsure whether the support is right for you, please get in touch and ask.
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