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Support for neurodivergent lives as they actually are

Divergently Being is a neurodivergent-led company building practical support around real brains and real lives.

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Life changes. Support needs to change with it.

Work changes. You become a parent. You burn out. You lose a job. You get a diagnosis that changes how you understand yourself. The things that used to keep you going suddenly do not work in quite the same way.

Too often, the support on offer still expects the person to adapt to systems, strategies or tools that were never designed around their brain or their actual life.

We are interested in building something better.

Through coaching, technology, groups, training, speaking and the things we are still creating, we help neurodivergent people understand what they need and make that support usable in everyday life.

What we’re building

Our work currently sits across three connected areas.

Parenthood

Becoming a parent can change your capacity, identity, routines, relationships and the demands being placed on your brain.

We’re developing support particularly around ADHD motherhood and matrescence, the transition into motherhood. This includes one-to-one coaching, The ADHD Mum Reset and future resources and programmes for neurodivergent parents.

ADHD coaching for mums Explore The ADHD Mum Reset Read Divergently Parenting

Work & everyday life

Sometimes understanding why something is difficult isn’t enough. And sometimes being handed another app, piece of software or strategy isn’t enough either.

We combine ADHD coaching, assistive technology training and practical systems support to help neurodivergent people make work and everyday life more manageable, including support with executive function and changing responsibilities.

Explore ADHD coaching Assistive technology & practical support Explore Divergently Reset

Ideas & change

We want better neurodivergent support to exist beyond the people who work with us directly.

We speak, train, write and have conversations about neurodivergent life, work, parenthood, relationships and the systems around us.

And we’re only getting started.

Speaking & training Read our writing Listen to Divergently Married

Meet Sonay and James

We’re a neurodivergent couple, parents and the founders of Divergently Being. We bring different skills to the same question: what would make support work in someone’s actual life?

Sonay speaking at TEDx Beckenham

Sonay

Sonay is a neurodivergent speaker and ADHD coach. She brings lived experience of ADHD and autism, professional coach training and a background in corporate and legal environments. Her speaking, writing and coaching have a developing focus on ADHD motherhood and matrescence.

Meet Sonay Explore ADHD coaching
James outdoors

James

James is an AuDHD assistive technology trainer with more than 20 years of IT experience. His practical, technical approach complements Sonay’s coaching, helping people make technology genuinely usable in their own work and everyday life.

Meet James Explore assistive technology

Experience we bring to the work

Sonay has more than 500 hours of coaching experience and almost 15 years’ experience across corporate and legal environments. James brings more than 20 years in IT, including technical support, troubleshooting, training and mentoring.

Our speaking includes Sonay’s TEDx Beckenham talk on ADHD, autism and late diagnosis, and speaking together for TEKsystems during Neurodiversity Celebration Week.

Watch and listen to our talks

Speaking & organisational work

Let’s talk about what better support could look like

Speaking and public conversations are an important part of what we’re building. We bring lived experience and practical questions into workplaces, events and conversations about neurodivergence.

Our developing themes include ADHD matrescence and what happens when ADHD meets motherhood, neurodivergence and work, late diagnosis, neurodivergent relationships, practical inclusion, and making assistive technology and adjustments usable.

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Ways to work with us now

Our current services are ways of putting these ideas into practice. Two examples bring that approach to life.

From knowing what might help to making it work

There is often a gap between understanding what might help and actually being able to make it work day to day. Divergently Reset brings coaching and practical technology support together to help bridge that gap.

Explore Divergently Reset

Parenthood support in practice

The ADHD Mum Reset

A five-week group coaching programme for ADHD mums who are tired of feeling as though they should be able to hold everything together.

  • Five weeks
  • Live online
  • Five-week programme from November 2026
  • Choose a daytime or evening cohort
  • Mondays 10:30–12:00 UK time
  • Thursdays 18:00–19:30 UK time
  • £199 founding-cohort price
  • Maximum eight per cohort

Across five weeks, we will explore identity, shame, executive function, the mental load, sensory overload, emotional regulation, boundaries and support.

Book your place Explore the programme
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Featured writing

Our three most recently published pieces from Divergently Parenting and Divergently Blogging.

Sonay feeding her baby

Divergently Parenting

What if motherhood is the only thing that feels motivating right now?

What happens when your priorities shift, your motivation changes shape and being a mum becomes the thing that feels most meaningful?

Read the article
Sonay and James together in Rome

Divergently Parenting

When your baby cries in public: autistic parenting, noise and overwhelm

Why a baby crying in public can feel enormous when sensory overload, bus noise and imagined judgement all arrive at once.

Read the article
A dropped kerb at a street crossing

Divergently Blogging

The kerb cut effect

How designing for people who are more likely to be excluded can make everyday life easier for everyone.

Read the article
Read more from the blogs Listen to Divergently Married

Not sure what support you need?

You do not need to arrive with a perfectly formed question. Tell us what feels difficult and we can help you identify the most useful starting point.

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